Matt Featured in Salon, Huffington Post, Vox, Fox Business, and More of What Matt’s Writing
By : Matt Lundquist -
In February, Matt contributed to numerous publications, as well as appeared in a news segment for Cincinnati’s ABC news station, speaking on topics ranging from relationships to parenting to family dynamics.
For Salon’s “Infectious Desire: How the Pandemic Is Still Negatively Impacting Our Sex Lives,” Matt observed from his work both as an individual and couples therapist how financial instability can impact a couple’s sex life. He revealed, “…couples bring the strain of economic hardship, job insecurity, having to work longer hours, feeling less secure about being able to pay for college—that strain shows up in the bedroom.”
The Huffington Post asked Matt to speak to parents on how to avoid raising “spoiled” children. In “6 Habits to Avoid If You Don’t Want to Spoil Your Kids,” he emphasized the importance of setting limits and not hesitating to call kids out if they misbehave. This is, he noted, “an important part of children coming to tolerate, for themselves, this idea—‘I’m pretty great, but sometimes I can be hurtful, and those are all parts of me.’” “Spoiling kids is much more about preventing kids from experiencing the unpleasant parts of themselves than doing too much supporting and celebrating what’s great about them,” he continued.
In Vox’s “Are You Catastrophizing: Here’s How to Stop Assuming the Worst,” Matt took on the impulse to catastrophize—to see the worst-case scenario—as a form of avoiding bad things happening. He distinguished the “difference between obsessing about bad things happening versus accepting them.” What helps stop catastrophizing? For Matt, “the work here is to move toward the very real sadness and stress of uncertainty rather than trying to bargain with it.”
Fox Business sought Matt’s expertise on grandparents’ ability to ease the “underappreciated” challenge of being a new mom in “Grandparents May Have Significant Impact on a Mom’s Mental Health, Study Finds: ‘Wisdom and Experience.’” With the article also featured in the New York Post and Yahoo!, Matt normalized the drive of new moms to “reach for support from their moms or from somebody who can be a stand-in with some wisdom and experience.” In particular, grandparents can offer “a particular form of guidance in navigating those shifts in identity and creating space to talk about that.”
While grandparents can offer support for some new parents, they can also be a source of stress for others as Matt showed in an interview with Motherhood Moment. For “Parenting Pointers—Stressful Grandparent Relationships,” Matt urged parents to set boundaries with both grandparents and in-laws early before the family tension becomes insurmountable. “…it’s almost always better to address them, directly, head on (and before frustrations and misunderstandings can fester and grow),” he observed.
In addition to the interview in Motherhood Moment, Matt also participated in a Q&A for New York Family on the myriad ways new parenthood can shift a couple’s intimacy and connection. In “How Parents Can Re-Find the Spark in Their Relationship: Expert Advice,” he urged new parents to consider discovering “new sources of excitement for one another.” This can even include “longevity and parenting itself.”
Finally, Matt appeared on Cincinnati’s WCPO 9 to discuss the increasing amount of adult children living with their parents for the segment, “Adult Children Moving Back Home with Mom and Dad: Is This Smart,” Matt revealed that adult children mostly move back home because of the “blunt economics of it.” These living situations, however, require open and direct conversations. “You need to be talking about money, talking about timeliness, talking about what ifs. Being transparent and maybe even bringing a level of formality,” he said.